Dr. Susan Biali

Yesterday, I was emailing back and forth with Toby Ward of www.HealthyCanada.com (I'm a health and wellness expert for their site), and when I mentioned that Hurricane Norbert was barreling its way up the coast, headed straight for us, here in Cabo, he told me I should "blog from the eye of the storm".  The hurricane's still about a hundred miles away right now, and looks like it'll just miss us, but I thought this would be an opportune moment to address what happens to so many of us: how can you manage to stay calm, focused and content, when everything around you seems to be going wrong or out of control?

I have a Mediterranean background, and it can show up pretty easily under pressure- I can have quite the temper.  I'm also an ultra-planner and hyper-organizer of my time, so when someone throws a wrench into my plans, watch out!  After all, don't I know best how to spend my time?  How dare someone go and change things on me!

This has been one of the busiest months of my life, in a wonderful way.  I have speaking engagements, coaching clients, media appearances and wonderful new opportunities coming out my ears - which is fabulous.  But I'm having to organize my time like never before, and some days it seems like there's no way I'll get it all done.  I had a business trip planned for this week, which I prepared for all weekend, and I was just about finished packing when I got the phone call - trip cancelled!  I was livid.  How could this happen?  All this planning, organizing, all-out work to get everything done in time to leave.  How could I have "wasted" so much time, when I already had so little time, as it was?  It seemed so incredibly unfair.  I felt like I was standing there, in the eye of the hurricane, while all my emotions, stresses, pressures and commitments swirled around and around me.

And then it dawned on me.  Trip cancelled - that would mean three more days of life with my husband, here in Mexico.  Writing deadlines gotten out of the way this weekend, to prepare for the trip - that would mean I could use the extra time to catch up on other things.  And then, hours later, the news of the impending hurricane.  If I'd been out of town these days, I might not have been able to fly back in today, as scheduled.  During a storm, I like to be here at home in Mexico, to ride things out and be here with my husband.

My point is this: if everything around you seems to be going wrong, or someone comes in and throws a huge wrench in your plans, take a breath before you go off the deep end in anger or frustration.  Ask yourself this: what might be good about this?   Why might I be glad about all this, someday? 

If you can't see the good in it right now, you probably will, in the future.  Then, like I did, you might feel silly that you got so annoyed or angry, and wasted precious time walking around in a huff.

There really is a good (and I mean good) reason for everything that happens.  Don't you just love that?  I do.

Dr. Susan Biali, MD is an internationally recognized wellness expert, life coach, speaker and writer, dedicated to helping people live their dreams and create better balance, health and satisfaction in their lives. Dr. Biali speaks internationally, and her opinions and advice on health and life appear regularly in print, radio, and television media across North America.  An expert for HealthyCanada.com and HealthyOntario.com, she writes three nationally published columns on wellness, nutrition and life balance.  Dr.Biali is the author of the upcoming book Your Prescription for Life! Seven Steps to Extraordinary Health & Happiness.  www.susanbiali.com

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